This is what happens when someone else brings the cake!

Don’t Bring Cake to My Party

CAKE TO MY PARTYI know you are probably saying huh?  Don’t bring cake to my party? What is she talking about???

Recently, I have been having conversations with family and friends around the topic of disappointments.  These conversations ranged from being disappointed about broken promises to poor evaluations at work.  I began to see a common theme in these conversations.  In each instance it seemed like they expected someone else to deliver on what they held important.  I believe that transition of power caused their disappointment. That’s why I am not going to let you bring cake to my party. (METAPHORICALLY)


At most parties, the cake is one of the most important elements.  It’s the way we celebrate a birthday, an anniversary, etc.  It’s presented with fanfare and the sound of oohs and aahs.  Some are ornate and elaborate and everyone waits in anticipation to get a look and then a taste.  We sing, cheer and celebrate a person around the cake at parties.  It’s the way we end the night and everyone waits for a slice.  shutterstock_370786568

Now what happens if there is no cake? Wouldn’t you feel a little disappointed?  That’s why I would not transfer that type of responsibility to someone else.

If I tell Jill to bring the cake to my party, lots of things could happen.  Jill could get sick…Jill could think that cake is too expensive…Jill could have more important plans and not show up. Why expect someone else to deliver on something that means so much to you.  Bring your own cake.  You can control the size, the cost, the taste and the look. You can also control when it will arrive.

Now what if Jill brings the cake to your party.  Great!  Now you have TWO cakes. That’s way better than none.

I am not saying in life you will not be disappointed.  Crap happens all the time. However, there are some things you can do to help lessen disappointment you feel in others.

  1.       Be in control of what makes you happy.  Don’t leave your happiness in the hands of someone else. You control your happiness. Others enhance your happiness.
  2.      Let go of past disappointments.  If your husband didn’t surprise you on your birthday 5 years ago, let it go.  Move on so you can enjoy the rest of the birthdays you have left. Don’t live in the past.
  3.      Only have expectations for yourself.  You can’t control anyone else.

I promise (to myself) that I will be in charge of the cake for my next party!


    • Niki
    • April 1, 2016

    Love this!

    • Lisa
    • March 2, 2016

    Ok makes perfect sense. I’ll provide my own cake and the bubbly too!

      • admin
      • March 3, 2016

      Yes to bubbly!!!

    • Tanya Simmons
    • March 2, 2016

    Controlling the things we can. Love this article dear.

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